Reference Points

Whew! The past two weeks have been two of the most exciting, emotional, and revealing weeks I have experienced so far in my short 25 years. I say “so far” because my reference points are different, and they’re expanding and changing every day, every week, every year of my life.

So, let’s see. On Monday, January 23 my mom and I piled in my little car, with 2 cats and a dog, and drove 2 days to get from Arizona to Maryland. At 9 in the morning, I hugged and kissed my amazing husband goodbye, as tears fell down my cheeks, while my husband nodded to respond to my question: “You promise we will see each other?”

For 4 days, I unpacked, got the animals comfortable, and dealt with my own emotional repercussions. I worried, I cried, and my reference points changed again.

I had not experienced such emotional discontentment since my husband went to basic training in 2015. And there were no texts or phone calls then.

This past Monday, I started my new job. And I was, and am, so excited about it all. Yes, it’s still new and shiny, and I am young. But this is the industry I was raised in, this is the industry I fought for years to not be a part of, and this is the industry I ended up desiring to be a part of. This is my first “big girl job,” and I am really looking forward to how I grow and how my reference points change.

And they already have. Living with my mom, I commute an hour and 10 minutes each way (and in the DC metro area, it’s usually more like an hour and a half to get “home”). Even though I may not be doing lots of physical activity, I have never been more exhausted when I get home. And I’ve realized how my husband feels. While he doesn’t have the same type of commute, he does work all day. When I wasn’t working, I would want nothing more than to go to something when he got home at 5, or even do something on weekends, and I would get so frustrated when all he wanted to do was sit.

But now I understand. My reference point has changed.

And I told him so. I texted him yesterday to say I was sorry for the way I had acted and treated him when he was working and that I understand now.

Throughout this process, I have felt as if God wanted us to learn something. I am beginning to see what could possibly be the first lesson: reference points.

I can get very needy and clingy when I am not busy. Of course, my husband becomes the object of this neediness. But because I didn’t have the reference points, I couldn’t understand how he was feeling or why he would get frustrated when I would get this way. Now I do. Because now I, too, am tired when I get home from work.

Like I said, I feel like God is trying to teach us (and me) something here. I think He is trying to teach me that I need to learn to relate to my husband on this different level. I think He is trying to show me that my reference points will change as I continue through this life, and that those reference points are going to be what help me relate to my husband as we both find our careers.

I think these reference points are also going to help us connect with each other. When we experience similar things, those reference points become similar, and it makes it easier to be on the same level when we discuss careers, moving, or anything that comes in this life.

The change in my reference points has already made an impact on me. It has changed the way I talk to my husband, it has changed the way I think about our life together, and it has changed the way I view our careers. We don’t have reference points for what life will be like in 10 years, or even for what it will be like in one year. But we have reference points for what we are going through now, and those can be our guide as we continue to navigate our current situation, our careers, and our marriage.

I still think God is teaching us something. And if I can already feel the first lesson, I know the next lessons will be tough. But I also know that I have a husband who is strong, supportive, and loves me no matter what; and I love my husband more than anything. Those are my reference points.

Be Equipped to be a New Creation

Today’s Word at church was the first part in a series, Equipped, about how God equips us for the plans He has for us. One of the things that stuck out to me the most was our pastor’s line: “Get intentional about being alone with God before you find yourself unintentionally alone without God.” It doesn’t matter what this looks like for you, but it is important that you do it. It’s the only way you will hear God clearly speak to your life. (I highly recommend the full sermon once it’s posted. Visit Covenant Church’s website: covenantchurch.org.)

It sounds strange, but in that moment, I realized that this Scripture Writing Plan I’ve embarked on, and the blogging about it, is my intentional time with God. I also realized that if I can hear Him during this small, 10 minute intentional time, then I am better equipped to hear Him when I speak those short prayers in a moment of fear, anxiety, or worry.

So let me share with you how today’s Scripture has equipped me.

 

2 Corinthians 5:17-21

 “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. Now all things are of God, who has reconciled us to Himself through Jesus Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation, that is, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not imputting their trespasses to them, and has committed to us the word of reconciliation. Now then, we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God were pleading through us: we implore you on Christ’s behalf, be reconciled to God. For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.”

Wow. There’s a lot there. Let’s break it down a bit.

First: if you believe in God, if you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Savior, then you are new. Your past is forgiven. In fact, it is gone. Your slate is wiped clean. You get to start over. How cool is that!?

Second: Everything comes from God. He has fixed the broken relationship between Himself and His people through His Son, Jesus Christ. He has assigned us, as Christians, to be His people, His “ambassadors” and spread the Word.

Third: God fixed that relationship by sending His Son, who “knew no sin,” to take the place of all of our sins in this world. Jesus died so that we may be free.

 

The take away here is…

Yesterday’s Scripture was about counting the things we have given up to follow Christ “as loss” because our God is so much better. It’s interesting that today’s Scripture is about becoming a new creation if you are “in Christ.” Why? Because if you believe, if you are a new creation, if you have pronounced Jesus as your Savior, you have given up something: the old you. So the old you can be “counted loss for Christ.”

Because how much better is it to be a new creation, to be seen as completely clean, in the eyes of the Lord than to hang on to whatever chains you had?

And this resonates a lot with me. As I’ve said before, I will not pretend to be “the perfect Christian” (and I don’t think there is such a thing, really), nor will I pretend to know everything there is to know about the Bible and the intentions therein. All I know is what I feel in my heart and what I feel God speaks to me through His Word.

I have spent a countless amount of mental energy thinking “looking back, I wish I hadn’t done that,” “what if this or that had happened?,” and, most dangerously, “how could God possibly love me?” Have you struggled with those kinds of questions? I can’t see a show of hands, but I’m guessing the answer is yes.

But you know what? When we accept God into our lives, and we declare Jesus as our Savior, our past no longer matters. Because we are new in His eyes. And of course He loves us. We are His children! He created us! We are the creation He desires most of all. And how absolutely astounding is that? That our great God would desire us above all else.

So if there is anything you are struggling with right now, just call to Him. Just cry out, “Lord, I need you.” He will show up. And He will make you new. I know because I’ve felt that newness wash over me before. Actually, a few times. It is an incredible feeling.

I encourage you: do not be haunted by your past. Let God re-create you so He can show you the great plans He has for you.

I count it all as loss…

As Christians, we hear a lot about counting things as loss for Christ. I never really understood what that meant until I read today’s Scripture.

 

Philippians 3:7-14

“But what things were gain to me, these I have counted loss for Christ. Yet indeed I also count all things loss for the excellence of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them as rubbish, that I may gain Christ and be found in Him, not having my own righteousness, which is from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which is from God by faith; that I may know Him and the power of His resurrection, and the fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed to His death, if by any means, I may attain to the resurrection from the dead. Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”

Phew! That was a lot, huh? I know that seeing a lot can make it really daunting to uncover what God is trying to tell us. I am by no means perfect, and I do not pretend to know everything there is to know about Scripture. What I can tell you, though, is what I learned through today’s reading.

 

The take away is…

Pay special attention to the first three verses: “7But what things were gain to me, these I have counted loss for Christ. 8Yet indeed I also count all things loss for the excellence of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them as rubbish, that I may gain Christ 9and be found in Him…”

I felt the message here was fairly simple. What things I thought were important to me, I have to let go of, or “count as loss,” for Christ. But those things I have “lost” are nothing in comparison to what I receive by giving it to Him. We must lose things to find Christ.

We must lose our expectations for our lives, our plans, our desires. Because it is all for Him and His glory, not ours.

In the last few months, I have experienced a lot of frustration. I was so frustrated that the goals I had for myself were not happening, that the jobs I really wanted I wasn’t getting an opportunity for. But when I let go of what I thought “the plan” was for me, when I calmed down and came to peace with our life as it is, when I became content, when I began to truly listen to God, amazing things happened. But I had to give up me.

So here’s my question for you: what do you need to “count as loss”?

Seeking Wisdom

Yesterday’s and today’s Scriptures made me think. I had to think hard about relevance, because far too often it’s easy to put your Bible down and stop reading (or writing) because you think “and what does this possibly have to do with me, here, now?” God always speaks to us in our current time and place. So I wanted to share with you how I have felt God has told me yesterday’s and today’s Scriptures connect and how they have been relevant for me.

 

Day 5, Psalm 90:12-17

Yesterday’s Scripture was Psalm 90:12-17. Much, if not all, of Psalms is devoted to singing the praises of the Lord, and 90:12-17 was no different.

“So teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. Return, o Lord! How long? And have compassion on your servants. Oh, satisfy us early with Your mercy, that we may rejoice and be glad all our days! Make us glad according to the days in which You have afflicted us, the years in which we have seen evil. Let Your work appear to Your servants, and Your glory to their children. And let the beauty of the Lord our God be upon us, and establish the work of our hands for us; yes, establish the work of our hands.”

These verses ask God to grant us mercy so we may rejoice, even in times of difficulty, and to allow His people to see His works. Psalm 90:12 resonated with me the most: “So teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” I felt this verse was simple to me: seek the Lord to gain wisdom. This Psalm was asking for God’s instruction in some ways and asking that He “show up” for us.

That is definitely a prayer I have prayed.

 

Day 6, Jeremiah 29:11-14

Today’s Scripture is one many church-going Christians probably know all too well. Or at least know some of. Jeremiah 29:11-14. This is where we gain the knowledge that God has plans for us.

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart. I will be found by you, says the Lord, and I will bring you back from your captivity; I will gather you from all the nations and from all the places where I have driven you, says the Lord, and I will bring you to the place from which I cause you to be carried away captive.”

This is a verse I hang on to in my heart, especially in times of disappointment. Like when I was getting rejections from jobs or not even getting interviews for jobs I applied for. This Scripture reminds me that He has a plan for me, and if something does not work out the way I originally wanted it to, then it probably isn’t part of His plan.

God loves us. He has never, and will never, not love us. But in order for us to know His plans, to see Him work, we must seek Him with all our hearts. This scripture is what has encouraged me to seek Him more.

 

The take away here is…

When I struggle with what this new job and the move means for my husband and I, I am reminded that God has plans to give us a future and to give us hope. Always. He would not place something in front of us, guide us somewhere, and forsake us. No. He will guide us, we will call upon Him, and He will work in our lives in ways we can hardly imagine.

These Scriptures seem to speak the same thing to me, though: seek Him to gain wisdom. Psalm 90:12 is very straight forward about that—“So teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” Jeremiah 29:11-14 may not be, but I feel it is in there in the Lord telling us He has plans for us, that we should seek Him and He will listen. By seeking Him and understanding that He does have plans for us, we do gain wisdom. We gain wisdom in our faith, in Him, and in life. We learn that He is in control, not us. And by having the wisdom to relinquish our control, we open up the door for God to work.

I will not pretend I am an expert on wisdom, because I am not. I don’t always show wisdom in decisions, and I have often paid for that. But I am learning. By His grace, I am learning.

Maybe you have been trying to seek Him but you feel lost now. Discouraged. Don’t worry—you’re not alone. But I encourage you to continue to seek Him. Seek Him with all your heart.

Where do you need wisdom?

Psalm 98:1-9 : Praising God

It took me some time to decide to write about today’s Scripture because I was trying to think about how to connect it to what’s going on and to the news I have to share.

Today’s Scripture was Psalm 98:1-9: “Oh, sing to the Lord a new song! For He has done marvelous things; His right hand and His hold arm have gained Him the victory. The Lord has made known His salvation; His righteousness He has revealed in the sight of the nations. He has remembered His mercy and His faithfulness to the house of Israel; all the ends of the earth have seen the salvation of our God. Shout joyfully to the Lord, all the earth; break forth in song, rejoice, and sing praises. Sing to the Lord with the harp, with the harp and the sound of a Psalm, with trumpets and the sound of a horn; shout joyfully before the Lord, the King. Let the sea roar, and all its fullness, the world and those who dwell in it; let the rivers clap their hands; let the hills be joyful together before the Lord, for He is coming to judge the earth. With righteousness He shall judge the world, and the peoples with equity.”

As you can see, this seems pretty long. But I hear God saying the same thing: “Rejoice. Give praise.” And I should, for everything. For me, what I learned here was straightforward: give praise to God, be joyful for Him.

And, believe me, I have plenty to be joyful for.

And that is why I said in the first two days of this that the Scriptures were so meaningful to me, because things are happening in my life.

Last month, as my husband and I were leaving for a relaxing vacation to Mexico for a week, I received an email with a job offer. After conversations of what this means, how this will work, how it will affect our relationship, how it impacts my husband’s career, and, of course, an official start date, I accepted the position. I start on January 30.

In 3 weeks, I (and our 3 animals) will be moving to Virginia. Without my husband. And I will be without him for about 6 months, possibly longer.

So what, you may ask, do I have to sing praises for?

The answer? Everything.

Yes, I will be away from my husband. And, yes, it’s going to be painful emotionally. I will miss him. But I am thankful that I have a husband who supports this career move for me. I am thankful that he knows what this means for me, for us, for our future. I am thankful for his strength and his faith.

I am thankful that I was offered a job so soon after receiving my master’s. In just 6 months. Many people wait much longer. I am thankful that an employer saw the potential in me that I know I have and am so eager to prove.

I am thankful that I have family who are willing to help me in any way they can as I embark on this adventure.

I am thankful for technology, which will make the distance between my husband and I that much easier.

So even through the difficulties, emotionally and financially, I will praise the Lord because nothing would be possible without Him. He has blessed me with what I have, and it all belongs to Him.

Today’s Scripture resonated with me a bit more than I thought it would when I initially wrote it down. And I hope it can make an impact in your life.

What should you sing praises for?

Sometimes understanding God’s Word is a struggle.

Day 3. Today’s verse was a little more difficult for me to understand, and I am praying that God will show me what I am to learn from it. As the title says, sometimes understanding God’s Word is a struggle.

So, here is today’s Scripture Writing. Ecclesiastes 3:11-15: “He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also He has put eternity in their hearts, except that no one can find out the work that God does from beginning to end. I know that nothing is better for them than to rejoice, and to do good in their lives, and also that every man should eat and drink and enjoy the good of all his labor—it is the gift of God. I know that whatever God does, it shall be forever. Nothing can be added to it, and noting take from it. God does it, that men should fear before Him. That which is has already been, and what is to be has already been; and God requires an account of what is past.”

Maybe you can see why this one is confusing, why it didn’t speak to me quite like the verses of the past 2 days. In my New Spirit Filled Life Bible, the New King James Version, these verses are part of the section titled “The God-Given Task.” So, my take away is relatively simple: that God ordains our tasks in life, and that we have the right to enjoy the fruits of our labor, but that we must also rejoice because, in the end, it is God who has given us what we have.

I like verse 14 the best. “I know that whatever God does, it shall be forever. Nothing can be added to it, and nothing taken from it.” I think this is telling us that everything God has done in our lives will remain. No one can diminish the miracles or the blessings God has placed in our lives, and no human’s work can add to His work. Because He is God.

As I said, I am still struggling with this one, and I pray that God shows me what He desires me to learn from this passage. But I invite you to struggle with me. What do you think these verses are saying? Has God spoken to you? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Remember: His mercies are new every day

Today is Day 2 of the Scripture Writing Plan, and I am already sensing a bit of a theme in what God is speaking to me.

Today’s verse is Lamentations 3:22-26: “Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. ‘The Lord is my portion,’ says my soul, ‘Therefore I hope in Him!’ The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him. It is good that one should hope and wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord.”

I felt yesterday’s verse, Isaiah 43:16-19, was about letting go of the past to allow God to do more in our lives. Today, I sense a bit of the same. If His mercies are what keep us from being consumed, if His compassions are new every day, then surely He forgave us for whatever happened yesterday (both immediately yesterday and the more distant past). So surely we can, and should, forgive ourselves and not dwell on it. God has promised us a fresh start every. single. day.

I have heard that forgiving yourself is often the hardest thing to do, and I think that’s because we truly know what was in our heart and our mind, and we must live with that person for the rest of our lives. We must live with the knowledge that we have the power to be that person again, good or bad. But I have also been told that if we cannot forgive ourselves, then we are saying Jesus was not enough. Because if God can forgive us, if He sent His Son to die for us, then what more could we possibly want?

So, yes, “Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed.”

The other thing I hear from this is that God is faithful, and He will “show up” (as our pastor says) when you seek Him. But what gets me is verse 26: “It is good that one should hope and wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord.” I do not take this as God telling us to hide our faith (“Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket” – Matthew 5:15). Instead, I take this to mean that we should seek Him in our hearts and wait and listen for His answer to our seeking.

I can’t help but feel that God is telling me to let go of things in my past, great and small. He is reminding me that, yes, His mercies are new every day and that He is always faithful. This Scripture Writing Plan is reminding me of all I can learn when I actively seek God and take time to truly listen to what He has to say to me.

My question to you today is this: What new mercy do you need God to show you today? What forgiveness do you need reminding of so you can move forward and seek God?

Happy New Year: Do not remember the former things.

Welcome to the new year! I decided to start this year off on the right foot—I found a 31 day scripture writing plan on Pinterest and decided that is how I’m going to begin my days for the month. Today’s really affected me, which I’ll get into in a second, so I thought it would be fun to share with you what I learn each day as I embark on writing out these scriptures, delving into my Bible, and hearing God speak.

The first verse is Isaiah 43:16-19. This verse reads: “Thus says the Lord, who makes a way in the sea and a path through mighty waters, who brings forth the chariot and horse, the army and the power (they shall lie down together, they shall not rise; they are extinguished, they are quenched like a wick): Do not remember the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing, now it shall spring forth; shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.”

A lot of things are happening in our life right now, not all of which I can divulge just yet. But I can tell you that they are new things. And I can tell you these things only happened when I promised myself, my husband, and God that I will be content with where we are in life because it is where He means us to be right now. Already, you can maybe see why this verse affected me.

The part that really hit me, that really made me feel like God was speaking to me this morning, was verses 18 and 19: “Do not remember the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing, now it shall spring forth; shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” It was as if God was telling me that He will create paths for us when we decide to let go of the past and trust Him with everything in our life.

So here is what I learned: when we let go of the past, past hurt and even past triumph, God can and will give us so much more. He can pave a way where we maybe didn’t see a road. With Him, all things are possible.

I don’t make new years resolutions because I’d rather not tie my goals to a specific year. I usually bit off more than I could chew and ended up disappointing myself. This year, though, my “resolution” is to let go and let God in all areas of my life, from finances to my marriage. I have to realize that I cannot do anything without Him, and if I want to see Him work, I have to silence myself.

So I encourage you. What former things do you need to forget? What new thing would you like to see God do in your life this year?

Letting Go, Letting God, and Feeling Peace

The tighter we hang onto the rope someone is trying to tug from our hands, the worse our wounds are and the longer it will take them to heal. If we are always holding on, our hands will never be empty for God’s next plans for us.

A friend of mine said this at our women’s Bible study last night, and I was surprised at how relevant it is to me right now. While I have let go of most of the offenses I feel I have encountered in the past year or so, I know that there are things I am holding on to.

Like any young woman my age and in my shoes (you know, 25, with a degree, and seeking a career), I have goals. Desires. Dreams. For someone who just received her master’s, I have a pretty solid idea of what I want to do with my life, and I have since I started graduate school. But how do I know it’s a desire from God, and not something I have been hanging on to as a desire I have created? This is a question I have struggled with for some time.

In a meeting my husband and I had with our pastors to discuss this season we are in, I began to cry at the thought of getting, or even not getting, this job I so desperately want. Our pastor told me it is okay that I have this much emotion tied into this goal because it shows that God has placed this calling on my heart. And I have felt this calling for years now. But he also told me to be aware of why I have this excitement, and to really think about what God is saying to me,

I am excited by the possibility of moving again, and I know things will work out if we do. This is not out of pride, or out of a “I know what I’m doing” idea. I know it will work because in the past 6 years my husband and I have been together, we have moved states a total of 3 times. Each time, God has proved his faithfulness—we got jobs, we got places to live, we succeeded. Then, when I graduated and, for once, we stayed in the same city, my husband got a promotion and we got a great apartment all on the same day. A month later, I got an offer to teach 3 courses for my university. Each time we have gone through a season of change, God has showed us He is faithful. I have no reason to doubt Him, to doubt that He will not provide us with what we need.

Our pastor also delivered a message one Sunday on being faithful in your season. Of planting, of sowing, of believing. If we are not content with where we are, God will not advance us. We have to learn to be happy, to be thankful, with what He has provided us before He will allow us more.

All of these messages seem to tell me the same thing: stop worrying. Do what you are doing, and it will come. Sow, plow, believe, have faith. And over the past few weeks, I have experienced something I have not experienced since this whole season began: peace.

I am still pursing what God has called me to do with my career, but I am at peace knowing that I am also at a great place in my life. I can honestly say I enjoy teaching. I love my students, and I love watching them grow throughout the course of a semester. I have a faithful and amazing husband who has a good job, who does all he can to support and provide for his family, who will always tell me “let’s pray about it” before we jump to conclusions. I have a family who supports my dreams. I have mentors who respect me and guide me and help me to be the best I can be. I have a church I love and pastors who love and support their leaders, believers, and community in a way I have not experienced before. I have friends who know what my goals are, who know my personal struggles, but who support me none-the-less and know how to ground me.

I’ve gripped my rope of worry, of “I want!”, of my own desires and ambitions so tightly, I do have burns. But, you know something? When I stopped fighting and said “alright, you can have it,” when I asked God if this is from Him, He has done wonderful things. I am ready to have my hands empty so I can receive what God has in store for me next.

Are you?

Decisions, Decisions

As graduation continues to draw closer (now with just 6 weeks left of classes), My anxiety is mounting. I still have not heard back from my top two schools for graduate studies, and I am nervous as all get out. My husband has been good about it, though, reminding me to relax and only think of the project I have right now: the Senior Seminar paper due in 3 weeks.

But as I think about the top two schools, both in Colorado, I keep debating about which is my number one choice. And therein lies the problem.

My first choice is CSU, but they do not have his Physical Therapy program. They do, however, have Occupational Therapy and a few other Master’s programs he is interested in as back up. CU does have his program. But I have always wanted to go to Fort Collins, ever since I was a junior in high school. I am now facing the biggest issue I have ever faced: it isn’t about me anymore, it’s about us. I am always reminding myself of that.

I am so used to being told that I can do anything my “little heart desires” or that I can go anywhere for school. Now I can’t. I have to think about his future too, and for an only child, adding someone else in the mix is a very big deal.

Don’t get me wrong: I am so happy to be married to him, and I wouldn’t change it for the world. I love him, I respect him, I want to do what is right by him.

But I also want to do right by me. How can I do both? How can I make a decision we will both be happy with?

If I only get accepted to CSU, he has promised we will go. If I happen to get accepted to both programs, it’s a conversation we will have to have. And it’s a conversation I am dreading. Because I know there will be tears and frustration. But my worst fear is that he will resent me. And I couldn’t live with that.

But how can I not forget about his dreams while pursuing my own? It’s a struggle I think everyone faces in marriage, and I think it’s even more prominent with us because we are young. It’s something we will work through, though, and I firmly believe we will come out on the other side all the better for it. Learning about each other’s dreams and compromising so we can both accomplish our goals is important. We are always learning about each other, and this is just another learning opportunity. And compromise is just part of the deal in marriage, but I don’t think it’s always a bad thing.

Because making decisions as a couple is the most important thing.

I guess I shouldn’t worry about it just yet, though, since I haven’t heard back from either school. Spring break is in 2 weeks, and I am hoping to hear before then.

In the meantime, we will continue to work through the “if” and “when” of things like we always have: together. Because we are in this together, forever.